Last week I’ve started writing a letter to my child. It is maybe a recap of all the things that I’ve learned throughout the years and something other future parents might consider. Here you can find the first part and today I’ll go on with my writing…
– part 2 of the letter –
Now, we can talk about how you, my child, need to always keep your values and search for the truth and good in everyone. It is extremely important not to think badly about people, especially if you don’t know exactly what’s happening in their life and what kind of problems they might have.
You have to understand that everyone is different and people will just be people in the end of the day. Unfortunately, although you might believe that some of them are your friends, you have to watch your back and be aware of the fact that if something goes wrong or if they don’t win anything for themselves, they might just turn and walk away from you. In life you will have very few true friends, and you have to treasure, respect and love them. It is very important you don’t lose your head, even when you fall in love.
Your heart will give you your first instinct and if your brain agrees with that, just go with it. Normally people don’t trust their instincts, but they will always show you the difference between the good and the evil in everyone. It is like a hunch that will make you reject or accept a person. If this still doesn’t work, write a pros and cons list and see which one prevails.
This might sound a bit maternal, but try to always respect your parents and be sure they will always be your friends, no matter what. I was lucky enough to have a very close relationship with my own parents and this saved me many times, when I didn’t know what to do.
A friend might not always tell you the truth, because they wouldn’t want to hurt you, but your parents will do it, just so they can help you make the right decision and prevent the sad and hurtful consequences. The best way to ensure that everything goes your way is to always remember that family comes first and that they will be the only ones supporting you and watching your back when things get though. And thank God, our family is huge. You’ll have a lot of aunts and uncles, you’ll have all your grandparents, great-grandparents and your parents that will always treasure and love you unconditionally.
Respect is something very important you need to remember. Without that you won’t be able to do much and unfortunately if you don’t respect people, they won’t respect you back. Respect is earned in time, but it blows away in seconds if you forget how you should behave and if you turn on the wrong path.
Don’t be greedy or rude. You might want fame, fortune and success, but you don’t need to hurt people in order to get them. All the money in the world is not worth having if you’re all alone.
You have to remember that in order to be successful, you have to work hard, study every day and never give up. Don’t get angry with people and most importantly, don’t outburst and argue with them based on your animal instincts. Try and focus, see the positive and negative effects and then make your final call. If you say something when you’re angry, you might create wounds that will never heal, no matter what you do. Be balanced and good will always find its way to your life.
– To be continued –
I have to say, this might be a little bit overwhelming, but these are just small pieces of advice, or maybe even some guidelines to help a child grow up… in the end of the day, most people don’t learn all of this in their entire life, but I believe that by having the proper education and the proper entourage, things might just change and maybe we could all become better at who we actually are!
P.S. For more posts about pregnancy and motherhood, check my “Letters to my child” Category!