It’s been 6 months since our bundle of joy came to brighten up our days. In some countries, like Ireland, it also means the end of the maternity leave. Of course, other countries have a longer period, for example, in Romania it is one or two years, depending on how long you want to stay at home. No matter which place you’re in, or how long your maternity period is, there comes a day when you have to go back to work.
Unless you own a business and you can afford working from home, or if you can do some freelance jobs that can be done in the comfort of your house, you really need to get all your energy and get back out there.
“Out there” can be such a powerful combination of words, especially when you don’t really want to leave your child with someone else. What if they can’t do the job properly, what if something happens to the baby and you’re not there to see it? The list of questions can go on and on and then a bit of sadness will appear in your heart. In the end, getting back in the lions arena is something that needs to be done. But how to do it?
When you have about one month until you restart your old schedule, try some of the tricks below:
1. Wake up everyday at 7 or 8 a.m. and do your morning routine, shower, put on make-up, get your clothes ready and all the rituals you used to have. It will help you to get organized again and see how much time you need to get ready and walk out the door.
2. Spend some time away from your child. Make time for yourself, do the shopping, go for a course or even in a park to read a book for an hour or two. You will then see the difference and how you feel when leaving your baby with someone else.
3. Go to bed early, so you can get a good night sleep and try to apply the same routine to your child. It will be way much easier and you can skip waking up in the middle of the night for a feed or who knows what else.
4. Start to exercise and go on a diet. You have no idea how much one pound/one kg or half a stone counts. It’s not for the looks, it’s for your health! Even jogging for 30 minutes everyday will help clear your brain and make your heart beat more powerful and you’ll get more energy out of it. Mornings are great for this activity!
5. Coffee is the key. If you were breastfeeding or didn’t really need coffee, now would be a good time to start thinking about it again. There comes a point, during those 8 hours in work when you’ll need it, and you don’t want to be all shaky and with too much of a pulse, because you’re not used to coffee anymore.
6. People generally love kids, but that doesn’t mean that you’ll have to talk about your child all the time. Don’t fall into that trap, because it can disturb others and you might actually hurt people (if you have colleagues that can’t have children or who have other problems like that). Everyone will be polite, they will ask about your new born, they will want to see pictures, but not everyday. Your private life should be private, not shared at work all day long.
7. Last but not least, ask your colleagues about what is new in the company, what has happened and if there’s anything you need to learn or read before you go back. It would mean a lot if you could have someone “on the inside” to send you e-mails periodically, just to let you know if there’s a new accountant or maybe if they’re changing procedures or ideas. Be involved and people will surely appreciate that!
You’ve had a baby, you are a devoted mother, but you also need to be aware that if you want to keep your job you need to make some sacrifices and just work hard to keep a good harmony in both the personal and public life.
The most important thing to remember all the time is that things change rapidly and you might see everything with different eyes now. Your priorities have changed once your baby became the center of your Universe… so, you might not “love” your job as much as before, be patient, be calm and things will fall into place again, as they always do.
Now, are you ready to get back?
P.S. For more posts about pregnancy and motherhood, check my “Letters to my child” Category!